When we were children, to most of us the World was a happy place, a place of excitement and discovery. When we started to grow into Adulthood, life got more serious, we were taught to become “responsible”
We learnt that throwing ice cream at your sister was “wrong” and that leaving marbles on the stairs for people to trip over was well, downright dangerous.
Instead of making our own laughter, we learnt control and we modeled those around us.
As we learnt, we learned more to “conform” to society and to “fit in” with others.. We leaned that our first crush at school was never going to marry us, and that babies were not delivered out of the sky by a giant stork.
Our schools taught us not only the education of the text book, but the education of conformity, those who “ducked” it were looked on as weirdo’s, and those who excelled at conforming, were looked on as heroes.
Learning how to be free never entered our minds and hearts as we already thought
we were free, living the dream, but this was the dream of someone else.
We also started to build up this catalogue. A mental catalogue of memories. Broken
hearts and broken dreams. We learned that we can’t have everything we wanted and that it was just too “ridiculous” to even try.
Best to get a job, do your time just like everyone else and live this idea of a happy life. Is there a better way?..
How To Be Free – Let Go And Start Living
I think so. In the words of Allan Watts,
“If money were no object, what would you do?”… If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing”.
“This is stupid. It’s better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing than to have a long life, spent in a miserable way”.
Letting go, perhaps is one of the hardest things a human being can do. Some memories are so painful, they haunt us forever. However, by letting go of our past, we can often begin to rebuild our future.
If you really want to know how to be free, the first way is to let go of the past, and realise that we got where we are today, by the things that WE did, by thinking the thoughts that WE thought.
Yes, there were outside influences. Maybe an abusive partner, a negative spouse, limited funds., etc, etc. However these were all outside influences that we let shape our life up until this stage.
We are the instigators of our own destiny. Everything we think and do, every decision we make, is shaping our future.
How To Be Free – “It’s Not What Happens To You, But How You React To It That Matters”
How to be free in an unfree world? The first step is to stop blaming yourself for whatever has gone wrong in your life. you are human, not a machine. We humans have faults, it’s impossible for people to live their lives and not screw up now and again.
How To Be Free – It’s Time To Forgive Yourself
Stop beating yourself up over something, you can no longer change. Whatever happened, happened. Now is the time to move on and let go. Secondly, think about how life could be, if money were no object. What would you do ?
Because it makes no sense to spend each day things you don’t want to do. If you hate your job, get one that you could love. If you hate your business, change it to one that inspires you.
Believe me. Life is short and many people go to their grave with regrets. Just before death is not the time to want to change things. You can change in a heartbeat, you can change in an instant. Things will change, the moment you DECIDE.
Think about it. you are a long time dead. Live your life with PASSION. Make each day an exiting journey. Don’t laugh, it can be done.. you just have to decide that today is the day.
How to be free in an uncertain world? – Clean out the closet of your mind. Forgive yourself for the past. Reward yourself for being YOU. And move on, live your life as if money were no object, do the things you love, and you will see…
It will all be OK in the end. If it isn’t, then it’s not the end. Have a wonderful day, these are the best days, hours and minutes of your life.